Mommy New Year

July 31, 2018

So why “Mommy New Year?” Simple, really: I became a mommy on New Years Day! Yes, my son has the unfortunate (though hopefully not too unfortunate) luck of being a holiday baby. I foresee lots of compensating and over the top wrapping differentiations going on in the near future. But lots of fun, too!

In addition to becoming a mom on New Year’s Day, though, I also sort of became a new person. I found a piece of myself that I’d always been waiting for. With that came a confidence I’d never had, a sureness, a feeling of right and completeness that I’d been searching for. Entering this new year, this new role, I finally became me.

A little about me: I’m Deanna, a mid/late-twenties, “new” stay at home mom (I put new in quotes because I was actually home throughout the majority of my pregnancy, but more on that later). I’m married to my high school sweetheart (cue *awwws*), he’s a physicist. I grew up 30 minutes from where I live now, but have been fortunate enough to travel to some beautiful places around the world. I have a degree in Biological Anthropology as well as a certification in Wedding and Event Planning. I’ve dabbled quite a bit in different fields: I had an in-home bakery business, I’ve worked at hospitals and cookie shops, used furniture stores, and in the library of a private school. I was also a freelance concierge and virtual assistant for a time, and my longest job posting was as a professional nanny. I knit and bake and cook, I enjoy reading, I watch way too much Netflix, and I love rescuing animals (dogs, cats, pigs, squirrels). I’ve started getting into gardening (especially herbs and veggies), I’m trying to learn to sew again, I’m an avid thrifter, and I enjoy some amateur graphic design when I get the chance. I’m obsessed with the Titanic, early 20th century living, and hope that Atlantis is real. I am a planner, a lister, a perfectionist, and I love doing paperwork. I play tug of war with anxiety pretty often. Since getting pregnant, I’ve become very passionate about pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, babywearing, and attachment/gentle parenting. I’m a member of far too many Facebook groups. I just got a library card for the first time since childhood (and quickly checked out way more books than I’ll be able to get to any time soon, oops). My favorite color is Tiffany blue, and my favorite season is fall. Did I miss anything? Probably. But all this to say, I’m all over the place, and I like to think I’m on the slightly quirkier side of normal. Hopefully someone out there relates. If so, don’t be afraid to say hi!

Coming up soon, my journey to motherhood. 

I Found Myself at Home

July 27, 2018

It’s a Friday morning and I’m sitting on the couch with my 6 month old son asleep in my lap, like he is most days. There’s a to-do list a mile long running through my head, I haven’t decided what to make for dinner tonight, I’m wearing a super comfy dress that I shouldn’t leave the house in, my hair is an unwashed mess pulled back into a bun that’s probably not helping the postpartum hair loss, and I couldn’t be happier. This moment, and every moment like it in the last 6 months, is exactly what I’ve always dreamed of.

Growing up, I was always changing what I wanted to do with my life. For a long time I wanted to be a dancer, then an actress, an interior designer, a magazine editor, lawyer, judge, NICU nurse, neurosurgeon, geneticist, bio-engineer, baker, meuseum curator, forensic anthropologist, wedding planner, primatologist, and art and book restorer. There was one constant, though. I always knew I wanted to be a mom, a stay at home mom, if possible. I think that’s why my career goals were always short lived, comparatively. I always knew they’d be temporary; they were place holders. And besides, can you imagine the looks and comments I would have gotten if I was honest? That my greatest aspiration was to be at home, raising my future kids, relying on a spouse to financially support us? In this, the age of third wave feminism and gender equality? But that’s what I wanted (even as a feminist and strong believer in gender equality). 

So here I am, living my dream. And that’s what this blog is going to be about. It’s going to be snippets of my life as a stay at home mom, in all it’s messy, emotional, exhausting, wonderful truth. I’m hoping to share about the realities and how I survive (and hopefully thrive). I’ll be touching on everything from pregnancy and birth to activities that can help with your child’s development, from breastfeeding and Baby Led Weaning to recipes and cleaning hacks. There will also be moments where I get super sappy, or talk about mental health. Also, I fully expect there to be many people who don’t agree with every choice I’ve made as a mother, and that’s ok. Parenthood is about finding what works for you and your family; I only hope my ramblings can help you find what that option may be and educate people on the choices they have, and make your journey a little more manageable. 

Disclaimer: While in many aspects I am an open book, and always eager to answer questions and offer advice, in an attempt to protect the privacy of my family and friends, some stories or names may be shortened while still maintaining the integrity of the post or story. 

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